Attitude Makes ALL The Difference…

Recently I received a very heartfelt email from my cousin Caiden.  It resulted in me looking inward for some words of wisdom and motivation that I could share with him as he embarks on the next chapter in his life following his graduation.  I wanted to share these thoughts with not just Caiden but with my fellow investors and entrepreneurs out there who are looking for the key to success….and attitude is what makes all the difference.

First is Caiden’s email to me, followed by my reply.  Enjoy!!  And make sure to keep your attitude in tip top shape!

Dear Chief,

So time is getting closer and closer to graduation, and my excitement just keeps rocketing through the roof. I recently have been looking at a couple of your websites and I envy everything about you.. Not just because you have all the money you’ve EARNED everybody wishes for. But your intelligence I admire more than anything. Your occupation has been a dream of mine since 7th grade, I’ll never forget the day and honestly you were a huge inspiration of that. I’ve tried persuading Aunt Kelly and Mike to move out there(but of course you can’t just get up and go when its hard times). I just feel and know my highest opportunities of success would be for me to get out there and I’ll do my best to pursue that. I just want to let you know I’ve never forgotten a word you’ve told me, your inspiration runs through my veins each and everyday and will never be forgotten. I know your a busy man it’s just phenomenal knowing and being related to such a brilliant man. Much love Chief.

 ~Caiden.

My reply:

Caiden,
 
Good hearing from you and I’m glad you are motivated.  The difference between those who “have” and those that do not, is attitude.  What I refer to as A-S-K – Attitude Skill and Knowledge.  If you have the right attitude but lack the knowledge and skills, then it’s nothing more than hot air.  If you are brilliant but lack the skill and attitude then you are brilliantly broke (college professors come to mind).  If you have skills, but they are in ditch digging and not dollar productive, then all the attitude and knowledge of how to dig a ditch won’t bring you much.  SO…
 
Attitude – Have the burning desire to be successful. Now that doesn’t necessarily mean to make money.  There are plenty of successful people in the world who are not wealthy.  They can be great artists, great parents, teachers, etc.  BUT… if you are want to be financially wealthy, then your burning desire to make money is a perfect ingredient.  
 
You also need to have other “attitude” traits such as FOCUS.  While your friends are out drinking at a bar, lying around watching their favorite game on TV, you are focused on your dreams.  You don’t allow life to just “happen” rather you choose to make things happen.  You elect to live life by YOUR design.
 
Tenacity.  The far majority of people give up long before they reach the finish line.  When things become difficult most quit.  When other’s don’t see your vision, poke fun of you, or try to hold you back, you just forge ahead with absolute commitment to make your dream real.  At my age Caiden, I have an army of people who have given up on their dreams, or thought mine where crazy.  They have all settled for less.  I don’t believe in settling for anything less than what I’m able to dream of.  Don’t get me wrong, not all my dreams have come true.  But the journey has been noting short of amazing.  Often times, as a result of the tenacity, life gives you other gifts your never thought of!
 
Vision.  You have to have a vision for what you want and possible paths to bring your vision to fruition.  You don’t have to “know” how, just have vision.  Be open minded to different way to accomplish your dreams.  Be willing to try different paths.  Don’t give up early, but be open minded to trying new things.  It’s kind of a funny dynamic.  Just head down the path you can take immediate action on.  The one you know you can do TODAY.  As you go down the path, other opportunities will become available.  Nothing good ever came from just dreaming about things.  EVERYTHING great came from DOING something!
 
Honesty & Integrity.  As you go through life you will always be faced with forks in the road… one path is easier yet lacks honesty and integrity.  Almost always, the more difficult path is the one of honesty and integrity.  ALWAYS choose the path of integrity and honesty.  When in comes to making money there is nothing more important than your integrity.  As you become more successful people will challenge you.  Think of Superman for a minute.  Everyone loves a superhero but silently they love to see attack the hero, they love the fallen hero.  Think of NASCAR racing.  People love an explosive crash – parts flying, cars denigrating, screeching metal and a ball of fire.
 
As you become successful, some people will want to discredit  you in an attempt to watch you crash.  If you have always come from a place of honesty and integrity, then you will never have anything to worry about. I know this sounds strange but just know it’s all part of success.
 
There are a TON of other traits.  These are just some initial knee-jerk reactions.
 
Knowledge.  Back to A-S-K.  It should actually be A-K-S because knowledge comes before Skill.  There is no shortage of knowledge out there!  You have to decide what you want to be knowledgeable in.  If you want to be financially successful, there are several ways to accomplish it.  You can be a brilliant computer genius and solve some large need in the marketplace i.e. Bill Gates or Steven Jobs.  This can be done in any business (just used computers as an example).  What of the most successful guys I know, Mark, has nothing more than a high school education.  He has focused on one thing all his life, buying ugly apartment building, fixing them up and accumulating them.  He has THOUSANDS of units and is worth several 100 million dollars!  But Mark knows EVERYTHING about apartments.  
 
I know another guy, Keith, who recently sold an assisted care business (in home nursing) for tens of millions.  Another friend, Scott, sold a packaging business for tens of millions.  
 
The point I’m making is they ALL know their shit!  They are extremely knowledgeable in their areas.  Either by choice or just part of life’s journey, they chose something and devoured everything they could to learn about their trade.
 
Passion.  This is a trait but it’s important to mention here.  If you are asking yourself, “what trade should I choose?” no worries.  Find something you are passionate about!!!  If you are crazy about cars like I am, then head in that direction.  If you are crazy about real estate like I am, then it’s a great path.  If you are crazy about something else, then run with it.  
 
I know this sounds crazy, but hear me out.  It’s all about Monday morning and after hours.  What do I mean?  Simple, what are you willing to roll out of bed for early Monday morning and attack with complete conviction?  If you have to work at some job you hate, then it’s damn difficult to have passion.  On the other hand, if you love cars, then you don’t mind waking up Monday morning and hit the ground running.  Also, much of success if found in the early morning or late at night while others are sleeping or walking through life in a comma state.  If you are doing something you love, if you have a burning passion for it, then working hard is not work at all, it’s actually play.  While other’s hate their job and bitch about it all day long, just to home and drink a beer and watch the idiot box, you will be producing results, chipping away at your dream and loving it.
 
Skill.  Skill is… applied knowledge!  This is a secret most people never grasp.  There are plenty of brilliant broke people in this world.  My biological father was a perfect example.  He was literally a genius.  He read 3-4 books per day!  Had 100% photographic memory.  You could read a sentence in a book and he would finish reciting the sentence and tell what page it was on!  I on the other hand, cannot tell you what I had for lunch yesterday – LOL.  Yet my biological father died a totally broken man in every sense of the word.  Financially broke, emotionally broke, and alcoholic, estranged from his kids, and left no legacy of any kind.  So how can a guy so damn smart be so darn stupid?  Simple, he never applied his knowledge.
 
Think of a library.  A large building with all the knowledge in the world resting on it’s shelves.  What good does it do anyone on the shelves, or worst yet in one’s head if it’s not applied?  One of the most powerful things in life is the ability to apply ones knowledge i.e. skill.  Knowing when, where and how to take your knowledge and all it’s possible applications is what master’s of skill do on a daily basis.
 
There are plenty of brilliant computer engineers in the world but only a few who have achieved what Bill Gates, Steven Jobs or Larry Page and Sergy Brin (founders of Google) have accomplished.  These are perfect examples of applied knowledge – Skill.  My buddy Mark could have read every book on apartment buildings but instead decided to take his initial small bit of knowledge and apply it.  Over time his knowledge, attitude and skill all built upon each other and now has a large portfolio of apartment buildings and lives a ridiculous lifestyle.
 
SO… that was a bit long winded but I hope it both inspires and points you in a direction, a direction called – Living Life By Design, Your Design.
 
You are young and you have to make choices NOW.  Most people will tell you you have plenty of time, BS.  NOW is the time to instill great habits and to replace sloppy habits.  The sooner you do it the sooner you will really live life they way it’s meant to be lived. No disrespect to Mike and Kelly, but you and I know their comments are absolute rhetoric and nonsense.  People all over the world leave EVERYTHING they know, come to a country, to a place they don’t speak the language, a place where they know no one, learn a trade they have never heard of and by their previous standards reach mind boggling success. 
 
You can have excuses or success, but not both!  Which do you choose?  It’s nothing more than a choice.  Mike and Kelly have chosen excuses.  Doesn’t make them bad people, just meager choices which can only produce meager results.  Have the courage to make smart bold choices and you’ll never look back.
 
I wish you all the best Caiden.  Be brave and decide today, now, to live your life by your design.  You’ll accomplish remarkable things.
 
Uncle Chief
 
Caiden,
 
Good hearing from you and I’m glad you are motivated.  The difference between those who “have” and those that do not, is attitude.  What I refer to as A-S-K – Attitude Skill and Knowledge.  If you have the right attitude but lack the knowledge and skills, then it’s nothing more than hot air.  If you are brilliant but lack the skill and attitude then you are brilliantly broke (college professors come to mind).  If you have skills, but they are in ditch digging and not dollar productive, then all the attitude and knowledge of how to dig a ditch won’t bring you much.  SO…
 
Attitude – Have the burning desire to be successful. Now that doesn’t necessarily mean to make money.  There are plenty of successful people in the world who are not wealthy.  They can be great artists, great parents, teachers, etc.  BUT… if you are want to be financially wealthy, then your burning desire to make money is a perfect ingredient.  
 
You also need to have other “attitude” traits such as FOCUS.  While your friends are out drinking at a bar, lying around watching their favorite game on TV, you are focused on your dreams.  You don’t allow life to just “happen” rather you choose to make things happen.  You elect to live life by YOUR design.
 
Tenacity.  The far majority of people give up long before they reach the finish line.  When things become difficult most quit.  When other’s don’t see your vision, poke fun of you, or try to hold you back, you just forge ahead with absolute commitment to make your dream real.  At my age Caiden, I have an army of people who have given up on their dreams, or thought mine where crazy.  They have all settled for less.  I don’t believe in settling for anything less than what I’m able to dream of.  Don’t get me wrong, not all my dreams have come true.  But the journey has been noting short of amazing.  Often times, as a result of the tenacity, life gives you other gifts your never thought of!
 
Vision.  You have to have a vision for what you want and possible paths to bring your vision to fruition.  You don’t have to “know” how, just have vision.  Be open minded to different way to accomplish your dreams.  Be willing to try different paths.  Don’t give up early, but be open minded to trying new things.  It’s kind of a funny dynamic.  Just head down the path you can take immediate action on.  The one you know you can do TODAY.  As you go down the path, other opportunities will become available.  Nothing good ever came from just dreaming about things.  EVERYTHING great came from DOING something!
 
Honesty & Integrity.  As you go through life you will always be faced with forks in the road… one path is easier yet lacks honesty and integrity.  Almost always, the more difficult path is the one of honesty and integrity.  ALWAYS choose the path of integrity and honesty.  When in comes to making money there is nothing more important than your integrity.  As you become more successful people will challenge you.  Think of Superman for a minute.  Everyone loves a superhero but silently they love to see attack the hero, they love the fallen hero.  Think of NASCAR racing.  People love an explosive crash – parts flying, cars denigrating, screeching metal and a ball of fire.
 
As you become successful, some people will want to discredit  you in an attempt to watch you crash.  If you have always come from a place of honesty and integrity, then you will never have anything to worry about. I know this sounds strange but just know it’s all part of success.
 
There are a TON of other traits.  These are just some initial knee-jerk reactions.
 
Knowledge.  Back to A-S-K.  It should actually be A-K-S because knowledge comes before Skill.  There is no shortage of knowledge out there!  You have to decide what you want to be knowledgeable in.  If you want to be financially successful, there are several ways to accomplish it.  You can be a brilliant computer genius and solve some large need in the marketplace i.e. Bill Gates or Steven Jobs.  This can be done in any business (just used computers as an example).  What of the most successful guys I know, Mark, has nothing more than a high school education.  He has focused on one thing all his life, buying ugly apartment building, fixing them up and accumulating them.  He has THOUSANDS of units and is worth several 100 million dollars!  But Mark knows EVERYTHING about apartments.  
 
I know another guy, Keith, who recently sold an assisted care business (in home nursing) for tens of millions.  Another friend, Scott, sold a packaging business for tens of millions.  
 
The point I’m making is they ALL know their shit!  They are extremely knowledgeable in their areas.  Either by choice or just part of life’s journey, they chose something and devoured everything they could to learn about their trade.
 
Passion.  This is a trait but it’s important to mention here.  If you are asking yourself, “what trade should I choose?” no worries.  Find something you are passionate about!!!  If you are crazy about cars like I am, then head in that direction.  If you are crazy about real estate like I am, then it’s a great path.  If you are crazy about something else, then run with it.  
 
I know this sounds crazy, but hear me out.  It’s all about Monday morning and after hours.  What do I mean?  Simple, what are you willing to roll out of bed for early Monday morning and attack with complete conviction?  If you have to work at some job you hate, then it’s damn difficult to have passion.  On the other hand, if you love cars, then you don’t mind waking up Monday morning and hit the ground running.  Also, much of success if found in the early morning or late at night while others are sleeping or walking through life in a comma state.  If you are doing something you love, if you have a burning passion for it, then working hard is not work at all, it’s actually play.  While other’s hate their job and bitch about it all day long, just to home and drink a beer and watch the idiot box, you will be producing results, chipping away at your dream and loving it.
 
Skill.  Skill is… applied knowledge!  This is a secret most people never grasp.  There are plenty of brilliant broke people in this world.  My biological father was a perfect example.  He was literally a genius.  He read 3-4 books per day!  Had 100% photographic memory.  You could read a sentence in a book and he would finish reciting the sentence and tell what page it was on!  I on the other hand, cannot tell you what I had for lunch yesterday – LOL.  Yet my biological father died a totally broken man in every sense of the word.  Financially broke, emotionally broke, and alcoholic, estranged from his kids, and left no legacy of any kind.  So how can a guy so damn smart be so darn stupid?  Simple, he never applied his knowledge.
 
Think of a library.  A large building with all the knowledge in the world resting on it’s shelves.  What good does it do anyone on the shelves, or worst yet in one’s head if it’s not applied?  One of the most powerful things in life is the ability to apply ones knowledge i.e. skill.  Knowing when, where and how to take your knowledge and all it’s possible applications is what master’s of skill do on a daily basis.
 
There are plenty of brilliant computer engineers in the world but only a few who have achieved what Bill Gates, Steven Jobs or Larry Page and Sergy Brin (founders of Google) have accomplished.  These are perfect examples of applied knowledge – Skill.  My buddy Mark could have read every book on apartment buildings but instead decided to take his initial small bit of knowledge and apply it.  Over time his knowledge, attitude and skill all built upon each other and now has a large portfolio of apartment buildings and lives a ridiculous lifestyle.
 
SO… that was a bit long winded but I hope it both inspires and points you in a direction, a direction called – Living Life By Design, Your Design.
 
You are young and you have to make choices NOW.  Most people will tell you you have plenty of time, BS.  NOW is the time to instill great habits and to replace sloppy habits.  The sooner you do it the sooner you will really live life they way it’s meant to be lived. No disrespect to Mike and Kelly, but you and I know their comments are absolute rhetoric and nonsense.  People all over the world leave EVERYTHING they know, come to a country, to a place they don’t speak the language, a place where they know no one, learn a trade they have never heard of and by their previous standards reach mind boggling success. 
 
You can have excuses or success, but not both!  Which do you choose?  It’s nothing more than a choice.  Mike and Kelly have chosen excuses.  Doesn’t make them bad people, just meager choices which can only produce meager results.  Have the courage to make smart bold choices and you’ll never look back.
 
I wish you all the best Caiden.  Be brave and decide today, now, to live your life by your design.  You’ll accomplish remarkable things.
 
All the best,

Chief

 
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1 Comment

  1. Very inspirational and motivating, Thanks for sharing it.

    Maria,
    Yuma, AZ


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